69 Sex Position Guide. Best Practice, Tips & Tricks (18+ Variations)
The 69 position is a sex position where two partners engage in simultaneous oral sex – the woman gives a blowjob while the man gives cunnilingus. It is also known as “mutual oral sex”, “sixty-nine”, “69-ing”, “Yin yang”.
This is the perfect position to make your sex unforgettable and give special feelings and experiences to each other in bed. Oral sex is enjoyable, but when it happens mutually it becomes twice as enjoyable. That’s probably why the 69 sex position is so popular all over the world!)
Nonetheless, I understand that everyone has a different perspective when it comes to oral sex specifically the 69-ing.
By the way, how do you feel about the 69 position?
Whatever your answer is, thanks for sharing your opinion.
It should be noted that most people associate 69 position with the classical version, when a man on top and a woman underneath (or vice versa), but there are other options that you should definitely know about.
I have prepared for you more than 20 different variations of the 69 sex position, from the most common and simple, to more complex and even extreme. I will also share with you tips and tricks to help you and your partner get more pleasure using these positions and avoid common mistakes and issues.
3 classic variations of the 69 position
First of all, let’s look at the basic variations that are most often used and are the most comfortable.
1. On the side
Perhaps the most comfortable variant of the 69 sex position for both men and women. They both lie on their side, with their heads turned to the genitals of their beloved. The lower leg is pulled up under the head of the partner as a pillow.
Neither lover is restricted in their movements, both are free to move both head and pelvis. Also, each of them has at least one free hand that helps to stimulate their partner even more (we’ll talk about this in more detail below).
In this position it is comfortable for a man to caress the clit, but if you want to go further and dip your tongue into her vagina, or play with her anus, it often becomes uncomfortable. But there is a simple solution.
All a man has to do is put her upper leg under his arm. As a result, her back will be slightly rounded and her pelvis will be turned so that her vagina and anus will be more accessible for caressing with his tongue.
2. Man on top
The next most popular variant of the 69 position is when the man is on top.
Despite the fact that the woman seems to lie down, she may not always be comfortable. And here’s why:
- A sense of enclosed space. People prone to claustrophobia will perfectly understand what we are talking about. Because a woman’s head is surrounded on all sides by a man’s body and is almost immobilized, it can cause her to feel anxious.
The solution: to go to the top position when the woman is on top (we will consider this option below).
- Restriction in movement. Unlike pussy eating, a blowjob requires more space for head movement. Being underneath a man, this space is almost non-existent. But even if the man raises his pelvis and the woman can move her head up and down, most likely her neck will get tired quite quickly.
The solution: Pass the initiative to the man. Let him do the friction. With one hand the woman holds the base of the penis and controls the depth of penetration. With her other hand she holds the man’s buttock and controls his pelvis – setting the speed and depth of penetration.
For men in general this variant of the 69 style (being on top) is quite comfy, but I would still give a couple of tips:
- Stand on your knees and elbows. Never lay down on a woman with your whole body weight. You can lean on her body, but not lie down. You can find a comfortable pelvic position (height) for inserting your penis into her mouth by standing with your legs. The wider your knees are, the lower your pelvis goes, and vice versa.
- Be attentive and control the friction. In this performance of 69 sex position a girl is very vulnerable and very dependent on male movements. So be careful and don’t lose control, especially when you’re getting close to orgasm.
- Overweight and a large belly. If this is about you, it is better to use the sideway 69 position or let the girl be on top. Most likely it will be uncomfortable for her to be under you.
- Access to the anus and vagina. Above, when talking about the sideway 69 position, I already talked about it. In order to get access to her vagina and anus you need the woman to pull her knees up more to her chest. To do this, it is enough for the man to place her legs under his hands.
Sex position #73. Yin-Yang Keep in mind, it doesn’t have to look exactly like the picture. The man can continue to stand on his elbows as in the above example. To do this, he just needs to push his body forward more. The woman doesn’t have to keep her legs straight either, she can bend them as she feels comfortable, as long as they are under the man’s arms.
3. Woman on top
This is a much more comfortable 69 style position for the woman, because she has more freedom in her movements and more control.
Basically, it is always like this – the one who is on top has more control over the whole process.
Tips for women:
- Lean on your knees. In the previous version of the 69 sex position, this advice applied to the man when he was on top. Now it should be taken into account by the woman. Moreover, the more her weight, the more important this advice is. If the girl is slim and her body is much smaller than the man’s, then this advice can be ignored and lie on the man completely – it will not hinder him.
Tips for men:
- Place her pussy correctly. It’s important to place her ass so that you don’t strain your neck trying to reach her pussy. This isn’t a problem if oral sex lasts 1-2 minutes. But if it’s longer, it will be hard to continue.
To prevent this I suggest you use these 2 tricks:
– Pull her ass to you so that she literally sits on your face. Your head should be lying down and your neck relaxed.
– Put a pillow or twisted blanket under her head.
You can also combine these 2 techniques. - Access to the vagina and anus. You already know how to get it!) Yes, that’s right – take her legs under your arms. Applied to this variation of 69 position it will look about as shown in the picture below.
Sex position #23. Book Many men like this 69 style very much also because they get a very arousing view of the woman’s booty and vagina in front of them!).
These are the basic variations that you will use 90% of the time. But there are more exotic types of 69 sex position that will require not only courage but also some physical training!)
Ways to spice up the 69 position
Alright, so the positions I’m gonna run through with you might feel a bit out of the ordinary and perhaps even a little awkward. However, these positions aren’t necessarily all about maximizing pleasure.
They’re more about spicing things up and bringing a bit of excitement to your regular sexual routine. That’s why you don’t wanna overdo it and spend too much time performing oral sex in these positions.
I know that many of the positions you are about to see look very attractive and arousing, but I must remind you:
Before you try it, honestly assess your physical capabilities, as many of the 69 sex position options below can be quite traumatic.
Why you should try 69 sex position
- Mutual pleasure. It is a great way for both partners to experience pleasure at the same time. This can create a sense of equality and reciprocity in the sexual encounter.
- Spice up your sex life. The 69 style can spice up a relationship’s sex life by encouraging experimentation, exploration, and communication. This intimate act requires attentiveness, responsiveness, and a willingness to try new things, which can bring a sense of adventure to the relationship. Additionally, the vulnerability and mystery that come with engaging in unfamiliar activities can help reignite sexual passion. Overall, the 69 pose can help couples break out of their sexual routine and create new experiences together.
- Intimacy. The close physical proximity of the 69 position can create a sense of intimacy and connection between partners.
- If you like oral sex. For individuals who are particularly aroused by performing oral sex on their partner and want to explore this desire further, the 69 position can be a great option to indulge in.
- Woman orgasm. Many women can only reach orgasm during partnered sex through oral sex. Making it worth considering a sexual act solely dedicated to it for those who have difficulty achieving orgasm through other means.
- Multiple stimulation. The 69 sex position is perfect for those who crave multiple sources of stimulation, allowing for genital stimulation and the arousal brought on by the sight, scent, and sounds of their partner’s pleasure. This combination can result in heightened orgasms, and the satisfaction of pleasuring one’s partner can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
- Variety. The 69 style can add variety and excitement to a sexual encounter. It can be a fun way to explore new sensations and techniques with a partner.
- Orgasmic potential. This position can be a great way for both partners to experience orgasm simultaneously or in quick succession. The simultaneous stimulation of both partners can lead to increased arousal and a more intense sexual experience.
- Communication. The 69 requires communication between partners in order to ensure that both partners are comfortable and enjoying themselves. This can lead to increased communication and intimacy in the relationship.
Tips & advice to optimize pleasure
- Take a wash first. It’s natural and healthy for all bodies to have their unique odors and scents, which can also be considered sexy. However, taking a quick wash before engaging in sexual activity can eliminate concerns about one’s scent, allowing full focus on the task at hand.
- Comfort is a priority. The top priority in any sexual experience should be ensuring the comfort of both partners. Trying to achieve orgasm while in physical discomfort or pain can be challenging, and it’s difficult to fully enjoy oneself in such a situation. Simple adjustments, however, can make a significant difference in improving the overall experience for everyone involved.
- Feel free to use lube. Maintaining a moist mouth while pleasuring one’s partner for an extended period can be challenging. Therefore, it’s recommended to have lube on hand in case it’s needed. If the taste of regular lube isn’t preferable, flavored options are available; however, it’s crucial to avoid products containing glycerin to prevent the risk of developing a yeast infection.
- As foreplay. The 69 sex position doesn’t necessarily have to be the main event, it can be utilized as a form of foreplay and as a way to engage in preliminary caresses. Afterward, couples can transition to other positions that they are more familiar with and comfortable in.
- Enhance your experience with props. If reaching your partner at the right angle is challenging or if your neck begins to hurt, use a sex wedge or a pillow or to adjust the height and/or angle.
- Protect your neck during the act. Although paralysis from the 69 position is unlikely, staying in an uncomfortable position for an extended period can result in muscle tweaks, nerve pinches, or cramps. To prevent this, support your neck with a rolled shirt, pillow, or other tools if you’re on the bottom.
- Communicate with your partner throughout the experience. Give them the chance to express their preferences, but don’t ask too frequently. If one partner has claustrophobia or a sensitive gag reflex, make sure to let the other partner know. Don’t force yourself past discomfort just to satisfy your partner; it’s not beneficial for either party.
How to make the 69 position more pleasurable
- Use your hands. Instead of relying solely on your mouth, consider utilizing your hands during oral sex with your partner. Your hands have the ability to squeeze, hold, stroke, rub, circle, and even penetrate your partner, adding to the overall sensory experience. Additionally, incorporating your hands can alleviate the strain on your mouth and prevent fatigue.
- Rimming. Rimming, the act of orally stimulating the anus, may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but those who partake often find it to be an intensely pleasurable experience. When incorporated into the sexual position known as “69,” where partners engage in mutual oral sex, the addition of rimming can heighten sensations and further enhance overall pleasure.
- Labia and Balls play. The 69 position offers a unique opportunity for partners to give each other extra attention in sensitive areas. For women, the labia is a highly sensitive area that can be stimulated through a combination of licking, applying pressure, and sucking. Conversely, for men, the balls are an erogenous zone that can be given extra love and attention during 69-ing. By both partners offering extra attention to each other’s labia and balls simultaneously, 69 becomes an even more pleasurable experience.
- Anus fingering. Engaging in anal play, specifically fingering the anus, during the sixty-nine position can be an incredibly pleasurable experience for both partners involved. For women, having the anus stimulated during 69 can lead to a blended triple orgasm, incorporating the G-spot, clitoris, and anus. Men can experience a double orgasm, including penile and P-spot. This mutually satisfying experience offers a new level of pleasure for partners to explore together.
- Butt Plug. An anal plug can be used as an alternative to manual anal stimulation. It offers convenience when using your finger is not ideal or desirable. By using an anal plug, some of the stimulation responsibilities are transferred from the partners, allowing them to focus more on stimulating their genitalia (penis or vagina).
- Vibrator. This is a great sex toy to expand the palette of sensations during oral sex. It can be used by a man for additional stimulation of the clitoris and vagina, as well as a woman for stimulation of the balls and penis. There is however one condition – you must have your hands free, for example, when you are lying on your back or on your side.
Difficulties and solutions
- It needs a lot of coordination. There is a common criticism of the 69 sex position that suggests it requires a significant amount of coordination. However, performing oral sex on each other at the same time does not have to be a problem. During a 69, it is not necessary to always be actively giving or receiving pleasure. You can take a moment to simply be the receiver and fully enjoy the sensations your partner is providing. For instance, when having a 69, a woman can pause giving head to her partner when she reaches orgasm, allowing him to continue pleasuring her. After experiencing an intense climax, she can then resume her activity. Although 69 is a simultaneous sexual act, the mere fact of being in such an intimate position with your partner’s genitals is incredibly arousing. It’s essential to remember that just because you pause blowing or licking for a moment does not mean that the 69 has to end. Additionally, using your hands to relax your neck or to take a deep breath is an option. Your partner will still experience full pleasure with you.
- It’s hard to breathe. It’s understandable to be concerned about proper breathing during a 69 position, especially when the man is on top of the woman. The pressure can be uncomfortable, and the last thing anyone wants is for the woman to choke on the man’s penis. Fortunately, there are alternative positions that can be explored. For example, the woman can be on top of the man, or they can both be on their sides. However, even when the woman is at the bottom, there are ways to make the position work. The man can leave space between her mouth and his hips, allowing her to control how deep she takes him. This way, she also has space to breathe and can turn her face to the side if necessary. Communication and being aware of each other’s needs and comfort levels is key in any sexual position.
- My neck hurts. Although 69 may not be the most comfortable sexual position, it can still be enjoyable with a few adjustments. If your neck is hurting, try using a pillow or experimenting with different variations of this position, such as lying side by side or having one partner stand while the other lies on the bed. With some creativity, you can find a position that works for both of you.
- It’s hard to cum at the same time. While it’s great to orgasm at the same time as your partner, it’s not something that should be forced or prioritized during sex. Instead, focus on enjoying the experience and the pleasure you’re giving and receiving. Don’t stress about trying to climax simultaneously, as it’s a rare occurrence.
- What to do with a height difference. If you and your partner experience a notable disparity in height, there is no need to fret! Fortunately, this can be resolved with ease by the taller partner bending themselves into a “C” formation during a side-lying 69 position. Alternatively, you can overcome this issue by being imaginative. For instance, the taller partner could utilize their hands and fingers while their partner focuses on using their mouth.
Just enjoy it
You shouldn’t expect stunning orgasms from the 69 position: it’s really not easy to concentrate on your own sensations in this position. It’s more for fun. It’s more about exploring your partner’s body. To know yourself – how ready you are to trust your loved one.
Try to enjoy this “exploring game”. Experiment, act gently or decisively, work more actively with your tongue, or focus on suctioning, do what you’re interested in, and let your partner do the same.
The 69 position is one of the most intimate sex positions, and it can give you an incredible sense of intimacy.
Take advantage of it!)