Why you should try 69 sex position
- Mutual pleasure. It is a great way for both partners to experience pleasure at the same time. This can create a sense of equality and reciprocity in the sexual encounter.
- Spice up your sex life. The 69 style can spice up a relationship’s sex life by encouraging experimentation, exploration, and communication. This intimate act requires attentiveness, responsiveness, and a willingness to try new things, which can bring a sense of adventure to the relationship. Additionally, the vulnerability and mystery that come with engaging in unfamiliar activities can help reignite sexual passion. Overall, the 69 pose can help couples break out of their sexual routine and create new experiences together.
- Intimacy. The close physical proximity of the 69 position can create a sense of intimacy and connection between partners.
- If you like oral sex. For individuals who are particularly aroused by performing oral sex on their partner and want to explore this desire further, the 69 position can be a great option to indulge in.
- Woman orgasm. Many women can only reach orgasm during partnered sex through oral sex. Making it worth considering a sexual act solely dedicated to it for those who have difficulty achieving orgasm through other means.
- Multiple stimulation. The 69 sex position is perfect for those who crave multiple sources of stimulation, allowing for genital stimulation and the arousal brought on by the sight, scent, and sounds of their partner’s pleasure. This combination can result in heightened orgasms, and the satisfaction of pleasuring one’s partner can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
- Variety. The 69 style can add variety and excitement to a sexual encounter. It can be a fun way to explore new sensations and techniques with a partner.
- Orgasmic potential. This position can be a great way for both partners to experience orgasm simultaneously or in quick succession. The simultaneous stimulation of both partners can lead to increased arousal and a more intense sexual experience.
- Communication. The 69 requires communication between partners in order to ensure that both partners are comfortable and enjoying themselves. This can lead to increased communication and intimacy in the relationship.
Tips & advice to optimize pleasure
- Take a wash first. It’s natural and healthy for all bodies to have their unique odors and scents, which can also be considered sexy. However, taking a quick wash before engaging in sexual activity can eliminate concerns about one’s scent, allowing full focus on the task at hand.
- Comfort is a priority. The top priority in any sexual experience should be ensuring the comfort of both partners. Trying to achieve orgasm while in physical discomfort or pain can be challenging, and it’s difficult to fully enjoy oneself in such a situation. Simple adjustments, however, can make a significant difference in improving the overall experience for everyone involved.
- Feel free to use lube. Maintaining a moist mouth while pleasuring one’s partner for an extended period can be challenging. Therefore, it’s recommended to have lube on hand in case it’s needed. If the taste of regular lube isn’t preferable, flavored options are available; however, it’s crucial to avoid products containing glycerin to prevent the risk of developing a yeast infection.
- As foreplay. The 69 sex position doesn’t necessarily have to be the main event, it can be utilized as a form of foreplay and as a way to engage in preliminary caresses. Afterward, couples can transition to other positions that they are more familiar with and comfortable in.
- Enhance your experience with props. If reaching your partner at the right angle is challenging or if your neck begins to hurt, use a sex wedge or a pillow or to adjust the height and/or angle.
- Protect your neck during the act. Although paralysis from the 69 position is unlikely, staying in an uncomfortable position for an extended period can result in muscle tweaks, nerve pinches, or cramps. To prevent this, support your neck with a rolled shirt, pillow, or other tools if you’re on the bottom.
- Communicate with your partner throughout the experience. Give them the chance to express their preferences, but don’t ask too frequently. If one partner has claustrophobia or a sensitive gag reflex, make sure to let the other partner know. Don’t force yourself past discomfort just to satisfy your partner; it’s not beneficial for either party.
How to make the 69 position more pleasurable
- Use your hands. Instead of relying solely on your mouth, consider utilizing your hands during oral sex with your partner. Your hands have the ability to squeeze, hold, stroke, rub, circle, and even penetrate your partner, adding to the overall sensory experience. Additionally, incorporating your hands can alleviate the strain on your mouth and prevent fatigue.
- Rimming. Rimming, the act of orally stimulating the anus, may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but those who partake often find it to be an intensely pleasurable experience. When incorporated into the sexual position known as “69,” where partners engage in mutual oral sex, the addition of rimming can heighten sensations and further enhance overall pleasure.
- Labia and Balls play. The 69 position offers a unique opportunity for partners to give each other extra attention in sensitive areas. For women, the labia is a highly sensitive area that can be stimulated through a combination of licking, applying pressure, and sucking. Conversely, for men, the balls are an erogenous zone that can be given extra love and attention during 69-ing. By both partners offering extra attention to each other’s labia and balls simultaneously, 69 becomes an even more pleasurable experience.
- Anus fingering. Engaging in anal play, specifically fingering the anus, during the sixty-nine position can be an incredibly pleasurable experience for both partners involved. For women, having the anus stimulated during 69 can lead to a blended triple orgasm, incorporating the G-spot, clitoris, and anus. Men can experience a double orgasm, including penile and P-spot. This mutually satisfying experience offers a new level of pleasure for partners to explore together.
- Butt Plug. An anal plug can be used as an alternative to manual anal stimulation. It offers convenience when using your finger is not ideal or desirable. By using an anal plug, some of the stimulation responsibilities are transferred from the partners, allowing them to focus more on stimulating their genitalia (penis or vagina).
- Vibrator. This is a great sex toy to expand the palette of sensations during oral sex. It can be used by a man for additional stimulation of the clitoris and vagina, as well as a woman for stimulation of the balls and penis. There is however one condition – you must have your hands free, for example, when you are lying on your back or on your side.
Difficulties and solutions
- It needs a lot of coordination. There is a common criticism of the 69 sex position that suggests it requires a significant amount of coordination. However, performing oral sex on each other at the same time does not have to be a problem. During a 69, it is not necessary to always be actively giving or receiving pleasure. You can take a moment to simply be the receiver and fully enjoy the sensations your partner is providing. For instance, when having a 69, a woman can pause giving head to her partner when she reaches orgasm, allowing him to continue pleasuring her. After experiencing an intense climax, she can then resume her activity. Although 69 is a simultaneous sexual act, the mere fact of being in such an intimate position with your partner’s genitals is incredibly arousing. It’s essential to remember that just because you pause blowing or licking for a moment does not mean that the 69 has to end. Additionally, using your hands to relax your neck or to take a deep breath is an option. Your partner will still experience full pleasure with you.
- It’s hard to breathe. It’s understandable to be concerned about proper breathing during a 69 position, especially when the man is on top of the woman. The pressure can be uncomfortable, and the last thing anyone wants is for the woman to choke on the man’s penis. Fortunately, there are alternative positions that can be explored. For example, the woman can be on top of the man, or they can both be on their sides. However, even when the woman is at the bottom, there are ways to make the position work. The man can leave space between her mouth and his hips, allowing her to control how deep she takes him. This way, she also has space to breathe and can turn her face to the side if necessary. Communication and being aware of each other’s needs and comfort levels is key in any sexual position.
- My neck hurts. Although 69 may not be the most comfortable sexual position, it can still be enjoyable with a few adjustments. If your neck is hurting, try using a pillow or experimenting with different variations of this position, such as lying side by side or having one partner stand while the other lies on the bed. With some creativity, you can find a position that works for both of you.
- It’s hard to cum at the same time. While it’s great to orgasm at the same time as your partner, it’s not something that should be forced or prioritized during sex. Instead, focus on enjoying the experience and the pleasure you’re giving and receiving. Don’t stress about trying to climax simultaneously, as it’s a rare occurrence.
- What to do with a height difference. If you and your partner experience a notable disparity in height, there is no need to fret! Fortunately, this can be resolved with ease by the taller partner bending themselves into a “C” formation during a side-lying 69 position. Alternatively, you can overcome this issue by being imaginative. For instance, the taller partner could utilize their hands and fingers while their partner focuses on using their mouth.
Just enjoy it
You shouldn’t expect stunning orgasms from the 69 position: it’s really not easy to concentrate on your own sensations in this position. It’s more for fun. It’s more about exploring your partner’s body. To know yourself – how ready you are to trust your loved one.
Try to enjoy this “exploring game”. Experiment, act gently or decisively, work more actively with your tongue, or focus on suctioning, do what you’re interested in, and let your partner do the same.
The 69 position is one of the most intimate sex positions, and it can give you an incredible sense of intimacy.
Take advantage of it!)